I can afford to live on my own pretty easy, im low maintenance n near the west side, $600 a month everything included. I mean i want to keep the family home, i want her to be comfortable, i just end up spending all my free time at her place doin stuff when I live somewhere else anyway. So I don't knowYou are between the devil and the deep blue sea @PinkyNotTheBrain ...
I'm guessing you live with your Aunt and look after her for cheaper rent....and you can't really leave coz if you are sick and lose work....you can't afford rent elsewhere.
Also...the farm move.....sound ideal compared with what you have ATM...but you Know the workload will probably be worse than the work you do now......
I can't Think of a way you can get 'round it.....