FreeBee,
Glad you stopped by. You are definitely on the right track with what you are making so far. A few minor adjustments and maybe adding one or two things will be good. We will help you with this.
What you are making can be added to an oil, or a mixture of oil and wax to be made into a rub/balm. By the way, it WILL work, we have a business based on it's effectiveness. Also adding some Epsom salts will help. It adds magnesium, which helps people with pain when they are mag deficient, which most people are.
Get back to us (Root is my other half), and let us know where you want to go with this, and how ready you are to proceed.
Also, what you are making, for internal pain, can be effective as is. Just put a bit under the cheek and gums and let it disolve. Tastes like crap, but very effective.
Also, we make a "Love Rub", which is what you are looking for I believe. We use some canna oil, made with olive oils, grapeseed oil, and coconut oils. just a couple of drops of canna, and a tiniest bit of cinnamon, for essence, flavor and warmth. It works well.