Live Stoner Chat Is there such a thing as being to nice

[Captain Howdy]

I'll be back to chat in the morning but here's a thought to ponder until then, following on from evol....

A person who portrays themselves in an overly nice manner for their own pleasure or alterior motives would be classed as having psychopathic tendencies.

I look out my window at all the smiling people I see, it's like night of the living dead out there except instead of zombie's there's just a world full of psychopaths with their shitty small talk and fake looks upon their faces..... Will someone pass my damn shotgun.....

:smokebuds:

 

[evol]

@romeo. Yep east coast. Is it possible that since depressed people tend to isolate themselves maybe the opposite type gather together and form towns....

@RivalFish. I completely agree, they fit they profile. But zombies do not eat other zombies..our problem should (evolutionarily speaking) wipe itself out. Although chaos will always exist in man and nature, we can for the most part just sit back and watch them destroy themselves. The only thing we have to do is make sure we are not "infected"... We must look at ourselves and our own actions and know who we truly are.

I was diagnosed with depression at 13 but never took meds or therapy. I was fortunately smart enough to learn to control it. I have "weird sad thoughts" but know how to block them and focus on the positive. I am in control of my life.

 

[UrbanFarmer]

Evol im with you! I dont consider my daily actions to be nice.....but courteous and considerate. In my daily activities, most likely any interaction with other people i will never see again. Me saying "thank you" or holding a door open for another person is me being courteous. I am legitimately NICE to friends and family, and to others that i care about. For the people that would actively threaten or cause harm to a loved one, those few would litterally see the devil walk on earth with its anger aimed at them.

And Rival, i used to call the smiling faces everywhere "social zombies" you get your shotgun, ill bring mine AND supply the sandbags to bunker in!

 

[Bromeo]

I'm sure Evol. We all gravitate towards those like us. If your down and OK with being down your not going to seek the person in the room with
the big fn smile upon their face.....but if your in a room full of people your going to gravitate towards someone. Its human nature.

I live in an area that has always been poverty stricken. Nobody has ever had much. They are so used to it they might as well just be friendly. Everyone around here has at some point had to ask for help. I think its what has kept them humble.

I do think there is no such thing as being too nice in here. Even slight sarcasm can be taken wrong here. English is not the first language of many AFN'ers. I remember growing up in Germany and attending some of their schools in exchange programs. The students would hound me wanting to learn slangs and profanity. I've noticed sarcasm is often the start of many of the heated debates in here. Its why I try to leave it out or just not post at all. When I'm in a ton of pain my "nice" button often fails. This are good days to just read instead.

 

[Rebel]

I was born and raised in southern new York... I wouldn't call it an unhappy place. there are unhappy people there just like anywhere else. maybe more per capita as the population is higher than most. the cultures are different everywhere as well. as I haves lived in Nevada as well as here in WV. I found each place has their fair share of skanks and psychos ... so in general I think there are two types of people. respectful and disrespectful. holding a door for someone is more about respect and manners. like saying please and thank you. I think anyway ... how I was raised. nice is different lol...

like when I'm out with my wife she gets mad if I say please and thank you to a female waitress or cashier like I'm being "too nice" I have pointed out I am the same with Dudes... it's manners not flirting or being too nice for whatever reason. lol anyway I'm too yappy!! lol

 

[CLMonkey]

@ evol East coast in da house ! :smokebuds:

My 2 cents on the topic
I was raised to be polite and if i didnt have anything nice to say, i was to remain silent. But during that time i encountered numerous versions of nice. Then i spent 29 years doing Engineering think tank work, and was only ever around scientist, and other engineers whom where socially and emotionally stunted to the point of sheer entertaining at times.The machines didn't have any opinion, or attitude.. That being said, it all boils down to me not always knowing the right thing to say or do.. so i just smile like a goof, and people usually let me alone. I'm usually the quiet one till im pissed, then i just don't give a shit. it's a chemical thing
:smokebuds:

 

[SkatterBrayne]

We are taught to smile, because it is rude not to. We are told that if you are unhappy, you need to take pills because "What possible reason could there be for being unhappy?". We are told to avoid discussing about our beliefs, and ideals with people because they may disagree. We are told that it is rude to disagree, or argue with somebody because they have a right to their opinion. This promotes the "Hive Mind" and drastic polarity that we are seeing right now... We are told that being critical, or negative about anything makes you an unpleasant person to be around.

We live in a culture where sex is considered obsence, but our TVs are filled with gruesome violence. Then we say that violence and violent thought is awful, despite the fact that this is arguable the most aggressive, war mongering empire in history. It is no surprise that we have a bunch of mindless, hypocritical, shallow, smiling, faux-plastic people walking around with no ideas of their own, who can only gossip and talk about reality television.

 

[Rebel]

mmmm hmmmm! :thumbup: