Live Stoner Chat Is there such a thing as being to nice

[Musturd]

Swampman I knew it was you I'll be right over.

 

[Rebel]

To me there is a fine line between being genuinely nice and then crossing the line to make me red flag you. If someone has motives then to me that's the reason for being nice and if you have to have a reason for being nice or overly nice than you have motives. Whatever those motives may be...

Now I've always believed "Don't mistake kindness for weakness" because I'll give you the shirt off my back. But the moment you f*ck me watch out. Or like most said... if you do the same to my family, friends, or my Wife I can get pretty creative in ways to retaliate. Call it spiteful, call it stupid. That's just the way I am. I don't mess with anyone. So if I get messed with I take it even more personal because I live my life by the "do unto others" rule. As I believe in Karma as well and it's all related. So you can "cover" your overly nice all you want. If the true motive in your heart is to deceive and trying to cover your negativity with a positive facade... you can't... You may deceive another person. But you can't deceive Karma.

Hell I'm dealing with a few of these types right now. One being a family member... with motives. And since I've been not buying the fake overly nice this family member has gotten frustrated and now is getting a little more pushy with me... instead of overly nice... So if you don't fall for the fake Bullsh*t they will eventually lose the nice attitude and show their true colors...

I also love the quote "I'm not as dumb as you look". --Stan Laurel (of Laurel & Hardy) one of the funniest people to ever walk the earth in my opinion!

 

[Eschatos]

I hate it when I fall for people that are "being" nice! and damn me I fall for that too easy. I bounce back hard though, I get mad as f*ck and they get a permanent slot on my black list! Deception I cant forgive. Shows zero respect about anything

 

[swampman]

Come on brotha we can smoke on some of this swamp....hay .....its getting better ....but I have to warn ya it will make ya feel good still ....

 

[Rebel]

JackSprat you made me stop and think... I neglected to see that angle... I too have known certain people throughout my life that are too nice in that way... putting others needs before their own. Without motive... good point.

 

[GoAuto6]

Lot's of new members any new thought?

 

[Bromeo]

Overly friendly close talkers with bo and breath issues can be a bit hard to take but in general I would take too nice over a trip to assholeville.

 

[evol]

Call me cynical but I believe only a small amount of people are genuinely always "nice" and those people have a "mental disorder" that put simply is the opposite of depression. Since these people don't try to hurt themselves or others they can go their entire life not being diagnosed with a chemical imbalance in the brain as a clinically depressed person might be.

"normal" humans that have the perfect amount of each chemical working perfectly together have many complex emotions and although can be nice are by nature only looking out for themselves and their family's.
So yes. I think people can be too nice and those people are not to be trusted. They most likely want something.
I am a nice person when I have to be around people but just enough to be social. I don't talk much and most of my coversations are me just smiling, nodding, and saying things like "yeah", "damn", "that's cool", and any other generic phrase I can think of to keep the conversation to a minimum. If you cross me then you simply do not exist in my world anymore. If you hurt someone I love then you won't exist in anyone's world anymore.
I'm always nice but never too nice.

 

[DrAuto420]

That sounds like a great balance you have to me. I am pretty much the same way. But I do know where all those over nice people that want something are. They work at the used car lots. :Cool:

 

[Bromeo]

Hey evol your cynical. :roflcry:. I'm guessing your on the east coast. . Just kidding. However as much as I don't like my current local I do like to people. I can hit about 100 towns/villages in any direction and find "friendly" the majority of the time. Hell some towns have so much pride in their friendliness that they make fun of "grumpy" towns. I DO Not look like a friendly person and yet I'm greeted with sincerity from complete strangers every time I leave the house. I'm sure location has something to do with it.