I got lucky. Wife's father used to grow weed and make his own moonshine back in the day when she was little and most of her family smokes. Even though she didn't partake back when I started growing she was never totally against it and I just kinda let her know instead of asking
She's a regular vaper now and she loves to garden so we have a little hobby crossover there. I think she likes that I have a hobby that keeps me home, but pretty sure she doesn't really like how much time I spend on it exactly