Sorry for your loss.
Up on the hillside where my parrents have a small cottage,the neighbour is growing some heavy plants.I do know him but we never smoked together as he is much older than me.It happened a few times,when i was low on smoke to trespass on his yard and chopping some small popcorn buds,just enough for a few joints.
I know how it is to get ripped,i could have taken all the 6 huge plants he had there,but that would leave me with guilt every time i would light up one of his budds.That is just not me.
So,anyway...this happened a few yaers back,and last year planted some seeds in my parrents yard.They were not doing so good as i had no time to go and look after them.Got like 100 grams in total.....but when i went to check the plants,i couldnt believe my eyes.I got ripped.They took all the big colas,and left some smaller branches.I was going nutts.I swore that day that i would not touch and steal somebody's hard work.
when you get ripped it's like your heart is cracking in two.It is easy off course to take the easy road and steal somebody's hard work