It's not so much an issue of packing it on I don't think so much as one day she's going to want to know about where she came from (I feel like that's only natural) and I can only imagine there is going to be some feeling of "why didn't he want me," ya know? Though, she knows she has two siblings by him that he also abandoned so maybe that bit will help her understand that it's not about her at all.Hi Suki, Wow what a nail biter. I am glad that is over and he is gone for your sake. As far as number 3 if you don't pack it on her there will be nothing to unpack.
I hate our kitchen. I don't have the desire to do that kind of work any longer and it would be well over $50K to remodel. It would require building permits and my property tax would go from about $1k a year to well over $5k. so this will never happen unless I hit the lottery. In which case I would no longer need too...