One love brother aurora.
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I'm glad you had the gusto to post something so personal and serious. For me, as a man, it feels so weird to be verbally / mentally abused by a little woman, but as you referenced - it doesn't end there, the kids have to deal with it too. I can relate !
In the 11 years of commitment & playing house with my bi-polar stripper wife, she has destroyed countless, priceless, personal possessions and relationships.
After a decade of unprovoked ups and downs/verbal tirades / attacks - I've become so exasperated I've done everything from contemplate suicide by cop to yearn her own accidental death or my imprisonment. Loving someone like that can be cancerous. To date it's the most difficult thing I've endured, and that's saying something from an ex con and a victim of child abuse.
Only you know the reality/severity of your situation. I humbly suggest loving her from a distance.
Stick to your guns. Make her prove herself and make her get off of the poison so her yo yo personality and emotions can stabilize. There is a real dangerous sense of entitlement, and a false sense of security and complacency that can come from the belief that someone would NEVER leave you or your children. The best thing I ever did in my relationship was prove that I could and would leave or have her removed, and most importantly go through the pain necessary to inflict change.
I wish you the best of luck and all the strength in the world. To love a bi polar / manic person is to have loved completely. I've never felt smarter, or dumber - more important, or more worthless - more loved, or loathed. Guess that's our burden to bear.
This is bigger than us though. You are the stabilizer. You must remain the source of consistency. Just remember moving forward, you can't reason with an unreasonable person. Take away the tools of negotiation and we're left with action. Choose your course of action and stick to it - every1 will be stronger for it.
Love and Respect, T9
In the 11 years of commitment & playing house with my bi-polar stripper wife, she has destroyed countless, priceless, personal possessions and relationships.
After a decade of unprovoked ups and downs/verbal tirades / attacks - I've become so exasperated I've done everything from contemplate suicide by cop to yearn her own accidental death or my imprisonment. Loving someone like that can be cancerous. To date it's the most difficult thing I've endured, and that's saying something from an ex con and a victim of child abuse.
Only you know the reality/severity of your situation. I humbly suggest loving her from a distance.
Stick to your guns. Make her prove herself and make her get off of the poison so her yo yo personality and emotions can stabilize. There is a real dangerous sense of entitlement, and a false sense of security and complacency that can come from the belief that someone would NEVER leave you or your children. The best thing I ever did in my relationship was prove that I could and would leave or have her removed, and most importantly go through the pain necessary to inflict change.
I wish you the best of luck and all the strength in the world. To love a bi polar / manic person is to have loved completely. I've never felt smarter, or dumber - more important, or more worthless - more loved, or loathed. Guess that's our burden to bear.
This is bigger than us though. You are the stabilizer. You must remain the source of consistency. Just remember moving forward, you can't reason with an unreasonable person. Take away the tools of negotiation and we're left with action. Choose your course of action and stick to it - every1 will be stronger for it.
Love and Respect, T9
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Hey Aurora, I know exactly where you're coming from. Give me a yell anytime you want. Been there done that still doing it. This place is like sanctuary I know.
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I agree
I feel for ya man. I had my whole family get addicted to meth at one time or another and I did drugs for 4 years, not counting drinking and smoking pot. Spent 8 years in foster care due to my parents loosing custody of us. Was separated from my brother and sister at a young age. I stopped when I was 20 and have been sober for 12 years now. I cut out every one in my life who did not quit. I have not talked to my mom for like 6 or 7 years now because she uses off and on. My mom has ups and down and it use to be from the drugs but now it is just part of her personality. She is the one who got me hooked on meth at the age of 17 and were I use to get it from. Luck for me at least every one but mom quit. My first wife separated from me because she started doing meth. I quit after me and her met and got us both sober so it was hard to go through all that with her just to have her throw it away my love for her is what made me decide to quit and I did cold turkey with no rehab. Your girl might just need to get some help. The ups and downs are probably caused my her addictions. If you want my honest advice I would let her go tell she decides to get help but every situation is different and every person is different so I feel your pain and know what your going through and wish you the best. I though my divorce was the worst thing that had ever happened to me at that time but it turned out to be a great thing because I found out she was holding me back, I went to college, met my current wife in school and have had an amazing life sense. I hope life gets better for you.
my humored advice to you aurora would be to heist a jewelry store and hope to hell you get sentenced to at least a year!!!! lololol
not really if its meant to be it will happen just sometimes it takes a bit of separation to really see the positives in what you had!!! hope it works out for you and the childrens sake!!!!
not really if its meant to be it will happen just sometimes it takes a bit of separation to really see the positives in what you had!!! hope it works out for you and the childrens sake!!!!
